i don’t know why I’ve been thinking about my mother so much lately
I watched a documentary earlier
on a women who was in jail for over 25 years
who was a “battered women”
then she developed lung cancer and had 6 more months to live
she had 2 kids, one of which was with the man she killed
[because he abused her, oh and she got out after 25 years]
probably 3 hrs afterwards I thought
I rather go my whole life
[which one of the daugthers did, her mother died 10 months after she got out of jail]
not knowing my mother and get just 10 months of my adult life with her
when your young I realize you don’t appreciate as much
I wish I appreciated her
I didn’t fight with her like some teenagers do with there moms
but when I did it was bad
and obviously I’m full of regret
I wanna give her 10 months of love
I wanna hold her and tell her how much good she did
I almost feel like she died out of sadness
it actually kills me to know I have true happiness
she might’ve found some sort of happiness from my father
[which personally I think is bullshit, but whatever]
but I know she probably never felt the happiness I do
my father is scum
as much as I try to convince myself that I love him and need him
I know its
just wanting something most people have
I feel like I need a parent
but if the parent is him
I rather pass
why choose someone to be in your life who chooses themselves
I’m jeal of Chris, whether he knows it or not
its not fair he can have parents
its not fair that I cant turn to someone with my problems
or ask questions when I have no clue what to do with my grown up life
its not fair that I can enjoy my children
without having someone I physically came from to show them off too
I’ve learned over time to ignore it
I’ve had a little more time then my sisters
each holiday gets harder because of my kids
[my older sister is the only one out of my 3 sisters with children]
and honestly I’m not gonna lie it gets harder every year
I’ve had a couple years over them not to brag or anything
which honestly theres nothing to brag about cause like I’ve said it gets harder
you see them laugh and smile
every year they ask a question every now and then
my son knows my mother is in heaven
and I tell him my father is dead
[he actually thinks my father is his uncle but whatever]
but I feel like its the right thing
I rather them not get attached to something that’s not there
my father is pointless but I miss him
my mother was everything
the one person I looked forward to learning from
and now all I have [parental wise]
is my grandparents
and when they go its going to be like losing actual parents
all over again
fuck my fucking life right?!
honestly nothings fair
keep your distance from people you love
it makes shit easier
fuck that!
I wanna be heartless
but I cant
I love who I can
as long as I can
its like a blessing actually
now I know to appreciate those around me
im paranoid about death but at least
I can still love
Oh the convenience of me not being in this wonderful family photo
a great ol’ pic of my parents and my 3 sisters